What is your greatest fear?
What is the activity or thing that makes your stomach churn at the thought of?
For me, heights would be at the top of my list, closely followed by spiders.
For you, maybe it is confined spaces, sharks, the air conditioner not working on a summer’s day or even death.
A recent survey about our fears showed the fear of public speaking at the top of the list.
Our fear of standing up in front of a group and talking is so great that we fear it more than death,
You did hear me, right?
People fear public speaking MORE than death.
Fears in themselves are harmless, in fact my fear of spiders may save me from a spider-bite in the future.
However, fear can block us from something good, due to us waiting for confidence to arise within us before attempting something
We may have lost the first step to any action, COURAGE.
Courage involves taking a leap of faith, trying something completely new DESPITE the possibility of failure.
You need courage to begin something, as there is always uncertainty.
Uncertainty about the outcome or consequences,
uncertainty about whether you will be able to garner the support you need,
uncertainty about the response of others.
The uncertainty is always there; it is a given.
However, uncertainty is closely aligned with fear.
These uncertainties give rise to our fear of failure, our fear of loss, our fear of rejection.
Stephen King, once wrote, “The scariest moment is always just before you start. After that, things can only get better.”
Courage is the virtue that allows you to act, despite your fears.
Courage gives you the POWER to put aside your fear of failure and take the first steps.
Courage allows you to attempt things that you have not tried before, despite your fear of looking foolish.
Can you think of a time where you have backed out of something due to your fear overcoming any other rational feeling, and you have waited to feel a wave of confidence, but it never came?
This feeling that we are so desperately waiting for is misguided.
Confidence is an outcome- it often comes after we do stuff, after we muster our courage
For most of us courage is the PROOF that I will succeed,
I want absolute proof that my idea will work, that I will get the outcome I seek.
Yet, you and I need to remember that we cannot start with confidence when attempting something new.
We know that public speaking is one of the greatest fears individual’s face
It takes courage to step out of your comfort zone and speak in front of a group of people.
When we challenge our uncertainties, we are made aware of the full stretch of our abilities
We build in self-confidence, and that courageous action that you take in one small activity, can have positive affects in many different aspects of your life.
Think about the effect YOUR fear has on YOUR life.
Does it dictate your decision making?
Does it stop you from experiencing new things?
Courage is the first step in overcoming any fear.
If we wait for confidence, we might end up waiting for a long time, or forever.